One of the biggest mistakes that divorcees make when ending their marriages is this: they refuse to accept any of the blame and believe that it was “all their spouse’s fault.” While it very well may be true that one’s spouse did most of the things that led to the divorce, this short-sightedness does more […]
In a November 2014 piece from Psychology Today, the experience of “friend divorce” is dealt with in part. PT notes that friends may end up divorcing you because they “may feel uncomfortable taking sides, may see a new divorcee as a threat, or your divorce may make them feel uncomfortable about their own marriages.” […]
Attorneys may not be the first people you turn to for relationship advice, but you shouldn’t be surprised at just how capable they are of dispensing it. After all, many of them see what goes wrong in relationships every single day as they represent people looking to break free from their partners. MSN recently spoke […]
Michele Weiner-Davis, in her much talked-about examination of infidelity for Huffington Post, has one particular piece of advice that really leapt from the screen for me. From the piece: “When there has been infidelity, people just don’t forget about it. In fact, they don’t ever forget it. What does happen is that memories of the […]
If you’ve ever felt guilty that your children had to split their time between you and your ex, we’ve got good news. A new study suggests that your fears are unfounded. According to the new research, children “suffer less stress if they spend time living with both parents,” CBS Washington reports. Researchers looked at psychosomatic […]
Many people, once that “divorce” word enters the conversation, stop thinking with their heads and start thinking with their hearts. That’s almost always a recipe for disaster. (Probably 99.9 percent of the time, so don’t get hung up on the word “almost.”) When you put down your guard like this, you are asking for trouble. […]
Prevention recently ran an article on the phrases that most divorced people hate hearing. While the site — link here — focused on 10 things in particular, I’d like to pull out four and make special mention since these were the ones that continually cropped up from friends and family after my divorce. Let’s get […]
For the record, bullying your spouse doesn’t have any specific gender bias. Men can be just as harsh as women, but the issue certainly exists on both planes. It’s the female side that Dr. Karen Finn recently spoke to in her piece for YourTango. Specifically, Finn identified three “bullsh*t” ways that women bully their exes […]
Conventional thinking might dictate that if you come from the same economic background — as in, the one with which you were raised — you have a better chance of staying together as a couple. After all, your budgeting, saving, and spending habits are the same, so that means you should be able to steer […]
A Social Mobility Memo published April 9 by The Brookings Institution revealed that college-educated African-American women are less likely to marry well-educated men. In all, 49 percent married well-educated men compared to 84 percent of white women with similar educational backgrounds. The discrepancies, the study finds, are due to black women being less likely to […]
