As an online divorce review site, we like to get opinions on why people act the way they act in relationships.
Recently on Reddit, someone asked the question of why people stay in unhealthy relationships. Why we hang around in spite of warning signs to do the exact opposite. There were numerous responses, ranging from funny to tragic to redemptive. Here were some of our favorites.
1. “I married the wrong person because that gave me my two daughters. Stayed with her despite our incompatibility because I came from a broken family and didn’t want to put my girls through what I went through. … We ended up walking away from each other and right now the only company I have is a kitten on my lap that can’t seem to pee in the litter box. I’m happier as a person, but do miss my girls a lot during the gaps. That’s my story though and everyone’s got one.”
2. “Yes. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years two weeks ago, and honestly I should have done it sooner. In my case I think we liked enough about each other to survive together but both kept hoping the other person would eventually change to be exactly the person we wanted them to be, and of course that was never going to happen. When I realized that I thought marrying him could be the biggest mistake of my life, I knew I had to end it.”
3. “During the summer transitioning into my freshman year of college, I dated a guy, thinking him to be someone he wasn’t (I had known him as a casual friend for over a year). As a few weeks passed, the warning signs became more frequent and more obvious. Yet I went against my instincts and stuck with him a little longer- which was a HUGE mistake. He completely turned into this monstrous person and made me feel physically sick to be around. … Bottom line is, even if you think all is well, or try to ignore the warning signs because you may think you’re “overreacting”, being too ‘judgemental’ or think you’ll ‘hurt him,’ it’s better to be safe than sorry. I was so incredibly relieved and free after I left him.”
4. “When I was with him everything was good but when we were not together he would barely communicate with me. For instance, he refused to answer my texts and I wasn’t texting him a lot. Eventually, you have to go with your gut. If things don’t change, you need to make a decision. I decided to leave that last relationship and now I’m in a much better relationship.”
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