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Children of divorce have a unique set of circumstances that they have to negotiate when considering future relationships. Unlike children from nuclear families where Mom and Dad stay together, children of divorce have to live and love with the realities that life has presented them. This was the message of a recent blog that took […]

If you’ve ever felt guilty that your children had to split their time between you and your ex, we’ve got good news. A new study suggests that your fears are unfounded. According to the new research, children “suffer less stress if they spend time living with both parents,” CBS Washington reports. Researchers looked at psychosomatic […]

One of the biggest regrets that I have about how I handled my divorce — probably the ONLY regret — is that I didn’t fight for the house we shared harder. At the time of the breakup, I was too hurt and figured the memories would be much too difficult to confront and be reminded […]

Many people, once that “divorce” word enters the conversation, stop thinking with their heads and start thinking with their hearts. That’s almost always a recipe for disaster. (Probably 99.9 percent of the time, so don’t get hung up on the word “almost.”) When you put down your guard like this, you are asking for trouble. […]

Prevention recently ran an article on the phrases that most divorced people hate hearing. While the site — link here — focused on 10 things in particular, I’d like to pull out four and make special mention since these were the ones that continually cropped up from friends and family after my divorce. Let’s get […]

Laura Lifshitz, in a recent piece for YourTango, talked candidly about her divorce and the events leading up to it. She admits that she can be a “little loud” and outspoken, and that that created an issue between her and her ex. But while sharing these details, she also stumbled across some of the best […]

For the record, bullying your spouse doesn’t have any specific gender bias. Men can be just as harsh as women, but the issue certainly exists on both planes. It’s the female side that Dr. Karen Finn recently spoke to in her piece for YourTango. Specifically, Finn identified three “bullsh*t” ways that women bully their exes […]

Conventional thinking might dictate that if you come from the same economic background — as in, the one with which you were raised — you have a better chance of staying together as a couple. After all, your budgeting, saving, and spending habits are the same, so that means you should be able to steer […]

A Social Mobility Memo published April 9 by The Brookings Institution revealed that college-educated African-American women are less likely to marry well-educated men. In all, 49 percent married well-educated men compared to 84 percent of white women with similar educational backgrounds. The discrepancies, the study finds, are due to black women being less likely to […]

Passion is something that many feel should come naturally, and while that’s true to an extent, every relationship goes through its challenges, and without effort, the passion that was once there can die out. If you feel like your relationship has lost its spark, there are several things you can do to rekindle that flame. […]